How to love

My mother once told me, with tears in her eyes and a pint in her hand, that she was sorry. She felt bad because she said, she taught me how to love but, she never taught me how to be loved.

What does that mean? How does one learn how to be loved?

Unspoken words

Listening to lyrics with a heavy heart makes you realize how much power words have.

My entire life I've read, I've listened, I've rocked out, I've written, and I've felt. Words that flow through your heart with such meaning tie a knot around your heart. They bring back memories, they provide hope, and they feel my soul with faith in "some day".

The lyrics give me lift, the beat gives me wings, but the hope inside is what makes my soul soar!

Happily Ever After Humbug

Once upon a time, there is always a girl with a dream. This dream, usually involves a prince. Not always the perfect man but one that completes her, makes her happy, gitty, gushy. The girl makes a wish and poof all her dreams come true. NOT!

What they leave out is that all that lovey dovey gushy stuff fades. There are fights, there are disappointments, there are lies. Eventually it tears them apart and everything that seemed so perfect in their lives is slowly ripped away. Everything crumbles.

That poor little princess now is left with self esteem issues, trust issues, no money, no hope, and best of all a bad attitude.

Give up on love now princess. It's just not worth the pain and the loss.

Rules of engagement...

To fight or not to fight?

Lets face it, disagreements happen. Is it worth fighting over, lets hope not. First of all keep in mind if there are habits the other person has when you meet them, do not expect them to change. No, they will not necessarily grow out of it, no they may not give it up for you, and no it isn't worth fighting about. It's either fixable or it's not.

Things to consider:

Is it really that big of an issue?
How does it affect you?
Is it a deal breaker? Something you absolutely can not live with or get over?
How will bringing this issue up effect the relationship?
Will fighting about it solve anything?

Rules of engagement:

Do not bring up old stuff, stick to the issue at hand.
Do not answer a question with a question.
Do not turn the tables on them.
Do not assume that you know what they are thinking or feeling.
Do not talk down to them, they are suppose to be your equal not your lesser half.
Do not give an ultimatum.
Do not throw or hit, you are not a child anymore.
Do not get defensive.
Do not act like you are always right.
Do not use words like always, never, or hate.


If you get too angry, be silent and collect yourself.
Consider your surroundings, neighbors don't want to know about your dirty laundry.
Do let them speak, there are three sides to every story.
Do offer a solution to the problem.
Do think about it before you say it, words can not be taken back once released.
Do include positive, reinforcing, and reassuring statements.
Do express how it makes you feel.
Do ask questions to keep the conversation two-sided.
Do take in to consideration if the "tables were turned".
Do inquire about their feelings and take them in to consideration.
End the conversation with a resolution.
At the end of the day, life must go on. Do not cheat on your future by dwelling upon your past. Say your peace and move forward.